BDSM Dating in Christchurch

Starting online in Christchurch

Write your profile first, then talk. You get daily match suggestions on Classic, and VIP adds filters for city, distance, experience level and what someone is open to. Christchurch is a compact city, so a few messages are often enough to find someone nearby.

Adults only, 18 and over, and everyone has chosen this community on purpose. You can take as long as you like to talk before meeting.

Uncommon Bonds

Uncommon Bonds, often shortened to UB, describes itself as a Christchurch-based BDSM group and a non-profit, pansexual organisation, and says it relies on volunteers to run parties, committees, special interest groups and training events. Anyone over the age of 18 is welcome at its events. It holds monthly social get-togethers called munches, a meet and greet where newcomers are welcome, on the second Tuesday of every month. The munch page says the dress code is everyday wear and that the event is for people over 18.

The site also has pages for newcomers, including orientation and etiquette, and for its parties and equipment. Check them before you go, since parties have their own rules.

What membership costs in Christchurch

Nothing is charged for Classic. The two paid plans appear below in New Zealand dollars, with the total you pay and an equivalent per week.

Plans of 1 week, 1 month, 3 months and 6 months renew automatically until you cancel. The 12 month plan does not renew. See the pricing page for every length and every currency.

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Before a first meeting

Take your time. A public first meeting, a friend who knows where you are, and a clear conversation about limits and a safeword do most of the work. Human support is there if something goes wrong.

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