BDSM Dating in Wellington
Wellington's published events are a private-house party venue in Porirua and a fetish ball each year. BdsmMatchFinder is free to join, shows prices in New Zealand dollars and helps you meet people before your first event.
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Open with a short, honest profile and see who answers. Daily matches arrive with Classic, and VIP members can filter by distance, city, experience and what someone is open to. The Wellington region stretches from the city to Porirua and the Hutt, so a distance filter helps you see who is near you.
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House of K
House of K is a private-house party venue in Whitby, Porirua, in the Wellington region. Its calendar lists kink parties and sex and swinging parties, with vetting. The house rules ask guests to dress to impress, with no shorts or T-shirts unless they are part of a costume, to avoid drugs before and during the party, and to be careful with alcohol, because consent gets blurry when you are drunk. Parties can sell out, so read each listing for the age range and vetting rules before you apply.
The Capital Fetish Ball
The Capital Fetish Ball took place on the evening of 31 May 2026 at Eva Pub in Wellington, hosted by KiwiKinksters through Humanitix. It is the one dated Wellington event we found with its own ticket page. If you want to go to the next one, follow the host's page for the announcement.
What membership costs in Wellington
A free Classic membership comes first. VIP and VIP+ follow, priced in New Zealand dollars below, with the full amount and the weekly figure for each length.
| Plan length | VIP | VIP+ |
|---|---|---|
| 1 week | $24.99$24.99 a week | $27.99$27.99 a week |
| 1 month | $64.24$14.99 a week | $72.81$16.99 a week |
| 12 months | $312.34$5.99 a week | $416.62$7.99 a week |
Plans of 1 week, 1 month, 3 months and 6 months renew automatically until you cancel. The 12 month plan does not renew. See the pricing page for every length and every currency.
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Before a first meeting
For a first meeting, pick a public place and tell someone where you are going, and settle limits and a safeword in advance. You can add a verification badge if you want one, and you can block or report anyone at once.
Questions people ask
What is House of K?
House of K describes itself as a sex and kink club in a private house in Whitby, Porirua. Its sex and swinging parties have an age range and strict vetting, and its kink party does not admit unknown single men, so read each event page and the house rules before you apply.
When is the Capital Fetish Ball?
The 2026 ball was on the evening of 31 May at Eva Pub in Wellington, hosted by KiwiKinksters. No later date has been announced, so check the organiser's page.
What does it cost in Wellington?
Classic is free. VIP and VIP+ prices are listed in New Zealand dollars above, with the total you pay, and in full on the pricing page.
How private is my profile?
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